I don’t know if it’s just me, the flowerchild I am, or if it’s the same to everyone, but organizing a wedding, our wedding, has been a path of personal growth.
I’ve learned a couple of things, so it feels right to end this series of post with a sappy and retorical upload.
There’s plenty of ideas of “family” around and, as long as they make you happy, they’re all fine.
My idea of family has always been quite a “big” one, which doesn’t (only) mean a big number of people, but more like, a number of people always updated about anything and everyone. A number of people with things to say, or at least that feel free to speak their mind at any time.
I know that to some people this description equals a nightmare. Sometime it is. But now I’m used to it and I actually like it.
What does one learn from a wedding?
To compromise, to reconsider, to realize that (at least for us) it’s not just about two people getting married, but two families getting together, you learn to stand your ground and to let go.
After all it’s a party of two for everyone.
“Let’s have a buffet!”
“Yeah, right, what about your 80yo granny? Will you let her standing on her two feet all day long and then what? Sit on the grass?”
“What about those guests who’ll travel 1300 km, you’ll just give ’em a snack?”
And so on
Which, presented like this, sounds like a logical, rational and quiet exchange of opinions.
Anyway, you’ll find yourself thinking: your parents are so into it, you didn’t want to just because but in the end you couldn’t care less… So what? Make them happy and everyone will be more relaxed.
You really can’t let go of this? Just say so and you’ll see people will come up with solutions that will make everyone happy (aka charity wedding favours, I really didn’t think about it!!!).
And so on and so forth…
Basically, what matters is that in the end we were really happy with our party…
If I had to do this all over again?
I’d make a steampunk wedding, guests in style.
I’d make a Labyrinth wedding, with Sir Dydimus as the one to marry us.
I’d make an Alice in Wonderland wedding, including Mad Hatter, tea tasting and scones.
I’d make a run to Las Vegas, and a postcard to everyone.
I’d make a run to the office, without saying anything to anyone (well, maybe the groom).
I’d make a wedding in a park or in the woods.
I’d make it all over again just the same.
In the end, to me, it doesn’t really matter, I don’t believe in the “My wedding day will be the happiest of my life”, most of all because I hope it will be a crescendo, not the other way around!!!